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The Mothers We Celebrate and The Ones We Don’t See
For every mother who is being celebrated, there’s another who is deep in grief. For every mother at a family brunch, there’s another who sits

Like Holding a Cup Beneath a Waterfall
We have all the content that we could ever need. It’s not content but context that matters.

“Love of Suffering” — a retreat, a migraine, and a saint
A few weeks ago, I made the drive from Charlottesville to Richmond to spend a couple days at a retreat center in downtown Richmond. This

The Joys & Challenges of Being Childfree
We live in a culture where we are, as women, are told not to trust our choices and our instincts unless it’s our maternal instinct.

Trump Is Not the Antichrist, But He May Be Preparing People to Welcome One
The dramatic line lets people dismiss the whole concern as fanaticism. The harder line asks what sort of soul our politics is producing.

Toward a Better Country
There have been many small deaths in my life. Moving away from our home in the country. Cutting my long hair. The final performance of

Cyrus the Messiah
Some of my Christian friends find a parallel between Cyrus and President Trump. Just as God used Cyrus, a pagan ruler, so God is using

Was Blind, but Now I (kind of) See
“Was blind, but now I see.” If only it were that simple. If only we went through life experiencing blindness (the problem), and then having

“Beauty will save the world.”
And changed people—people who are more attentive, more compassionate, more alive to what matters—are the ones who shape the world.

It’s a Mess! Burning Down the House
At our 20-year class reunion, one of the ringleaders apologized. Apparently, he had his own Damascus Road experience. Still, I couldn’t muster up enough Ananias-like

Truth Happens Between Two
I share this story because in it, I experienced something true.

We Need to Protect Our Feelings
I’ve been thinking about this juxtaposition of reflections, one on the loss of laughter, the other on the loss of weeping. In both instances, the